Check Out 10 Ideal Pole Saws For Higher Cutting

A pole Saw is a kind of small size chainsaw that is used for cutting down the big branches. Even it is also very useful in the process of cutting the overhanging limbs of the trees. Therefore, the use of the pole saw is really easy; this is the main reason why it is so useful and demanding. Not only this, but you can also use it for cutting the grass and also for a shape up the branches of the plants which exist in the garden. You can check out the latest and best jobsite table saw at different online sources and choose to compare them for choosing the best.

Moreover, users of the pole saws just use this machine at the house; this is the main reason why they are looking for a heavy discount on it. Not only this, you are able to adjust the height of these machines according to its use. In case you are going to use the pole saw then make sure you can adjust the height of it if the branches are on the large height. You just need to extend it and reach using the telescoping pole to cut the tiny branches of the trees. Now I am going to explain more and about this amazing tool.

10 mind-blowing pole saws for higher cutting

When you are going to visit the market or any online store, then you must try to find out the best pole saws for higher cutting. Therefore, you can check out 10 great examples of it that will really make you happy

  1. Hasqvarna 128LDX 28cc motor that comes with a height of 10 inches 9 foot and it’s a gas pole saw which is a rare model in Pole saws.
  2. 20671 electric Pole saw created by the green works is also a great example of the pole saw that you could use of cutting the branches.
  3. The same model like Remington there is also an RM2599, and it gives you 25cc with 2cycel, and 8 inches of height gas Pole saw system.
  4. BLACK+DECKER LPP120 with a bettery of 20v pole saw comes in Orange color and very easy to use.
  5. Well-know pole saw named as Poulan Pro 967044201 with 40v, and 8 inch height with a battery will give you great power.
  6. There is trimmerplus comes in small size but still have 8 inch height.
  7. WORX WG 309 is a great Pole Saw that comes in 10 inch electrical power. Its 10 inches of a bar will give you perfect handling of the higher cutting.
  8. Don’t forget to check out the Maxtra 42.7CC 2-Cycle that comes in cordless gas chainsaw, so you don’t need to worry about large branches if you have this.
  9. Remington RM1035SPS is a great chainsaw, and the pole saw both so you should use this range electrical machine in the garden.
  10. The OREGON PS250-A6 with high power MAX battery kit will really mind-blowing.

Well, it depends on you that which pole saw you want to buy from the online store.

School district yanks away coaching duties from many; Coaches say they were told decision was to move in ‘different direction’

The coaches were called in one by one Wednesday to get the news from school district Superintendent Dr. Manuel Rodriguez. Some of the coaches interviewed by The Trinidad Times Independent, a sister publication of The Range, said Rodriguez told them they were being removed as coaches because the district “was going in a different direction.” The coaches said they were given no other reason for the decision. The coaches are to continue as classroom teachers, but most have been reassigned to different teaching responsibilities than they had previously.

What this means for the future of high school sports in Trinidad remains unclear. Several of the athletes went to the home of Charlene Bertolino, school board president, Wednesday night to protest the firings. One of them, Billy Vigil, said he spoke to Bertolino through her screen door and was told that new coaches would be brought in for next school year and he would be notified via a phone call from her when those decisions were made.

Longtime football coach Randy Begano, among those relieved of their coaching positions, said the disruption in personal relationships developed over many years will hurt both the students and coaches.

“The kids’ are really torn up about this,” Begano said. ‘There were high school boys and girls crying when we told them we wouldn’t be back next year. My son’s a senior next year and we were both looking forward to me being his football coach in his senior season. Now I don’t think he’ll even play football next year. This school board and administration are not doing what’s in the best interests of these kids.”

Asked about the mass firing of coaches, school board member Larry Carnes said it was typical for a school district to reassess its personnel situation at the end of each school year, with personnel needs for the coming year being a part of that assessment. He said he assumed that’s what Rodriguez and the administration had been doing.

Rodriguez said he couldn’t discuss personnel matters, and therefore would have no comment on the coaches’ firing. He said the district would advertise locally and regionally for the combined position of athletic director, head football coach and physical education teacher. He said the district hoped to fill that position quickly and “in a timely and judicious a manner as possible.” He said any other coaching decisions would have to wait until after a new athletic director was hired because that person would have input into the decision to hire other coaches.

The firing of the coaches sparked about 30 THS students to hold a protest rally Thursday morning.

Brandon Wallace will be a junior next year and said he’d come to the protest in an effort to restore the football and basketball programs to the way they’d been before.

“I think it was a dumb mistake to do this to our coaches and teachers,” Wallace said. “They haven’t given them any reason for why they fired them, and this is going to affect our programs really big.”

Brandon Aragon will be a sophomore next year and played football, basketball, and baseball as a freshman. He said he’d come to the protest to get his coaches back but added that more people needed to get involved in that cause.

“I think it will help, especially if we put more effort into it,” Aragon said. “We have to do more protesting, talk to the board members and get the parents involved.”

George Dasko, head girl’s basketball coach at the high school, kept his job through many of his colleagues were fired. Dasko said it made no sense to dismantle the athletic program in order to fix any problems it might have. He said coaches should be told about any problems by the administration, and he believes the coaches would work to fix those problems.

“The community has to come forward or live with these decisions,” Dasko said. “If Trinidad doesn’t come forward, then as coaches we have to live with it or move someplace else. The people of Trinidad have to stand up and fight for their kids.”

Fat Loss Reviews: Burn The Fat, Feed The Muscle Review

When you’re looking for fat loss reviews, you’ll no doubt find a confusingly large number of weight loss programs to choose from. To help in your search, let’s dig deeper into Tom Venuto’s Burn the Fat, Feed the Muscle program to see if this is the right one for your needs.

The Stuff We Like
Positive: The program personalizes the approach to each individual’s weight loss needs

Burn The Fat, Feed The Muscle receives this strong positive rating from our Fat Loss Reviews department because it focuses on individual body types and their specific needs for dieting. The idea is that one body type processes foods differently than another. For example, one body type might need fewer carbs to function more effectively while another might require complex carbohydrates to operate at its best.

The program teaches you what body type you are and gives you a specific diet and workout plans that suit you best. In theory, this system should work more effectively than a general one that lumps all body types into one program.

Positive: You get lots of nutritional information

It’s hard to beat a program that gives you such a large amount of insider knowledge on nutrition and how it pertains to your body type. Over 270 pages of the core book are dedicated to nutrition – everything from calories to macronutrients to vitamins. Included are guides to help you understand your base metabolic rate and the calorie needs for your body type.

Positive: The ability to purchase upgrades

This Fat Loss Reviews positive rating is well warranted as the user is able to gain access to tons of excellent material and weight loss help outside of the core book. Upgrades include author interviews and access to Venuto’s website which is crammed full of very high-quality weight loss information and tools – calculators, recipes, forums and much more – that could be a real boost in your efforts to lose weight.

The Stuff We Don’t Like
Negative: Casual dieters may find there’s too much information

The core Burn The Fat, Feed The Muscle book is 341 pages long and that coupled with the many bonuses and possible upgrades makes for a lot of in-depth information that casual dieters may not be interested in.

Negative: Not enough information on exercise

Venuto focuses most of the book on nutrition while giving just about 25 pages apiece to cardio and strength training. And he sometimes mentions exercises without explaining how to do them. One positive though is the Weightlifting FAQ section which has lots of good information.

What we think of this program

Burn The Fat, Feed The Muscle receives the highest rating in our Fat Loss Reviews department – 5 out of 5 stars. It’s an excellent guide for those serious about weight loss. That many are loyal to this program is no surprise. While it’s probably not the best choice for someone who only needs to get rid of a few pounds, this is still a fantastic resource for achieving your very best body.

How To Optimize Your Writing For A Mobile Marketing Audience

How To Optimize Your Writing For A Mobile Marketing Audience

The other day I came across an article which spoke directly to the challenges writers face rewriting for a mobile audience.How To Optimize Your Writing For A Mobile Marketing Audience

Here are some of the highlights…

  • Distractions, Distractions, Distractions. The mobile audience has infinitely more distractions to deal with than a web audience. Remember, the mobile audience is just that: mobile: they could be on their way to the train, standing in line at the supermarket and so on. There is an endless supply of “off-device” distractions to contend with.
  • How To Optimize Your Writing For A Mobile Marketing Audience
  • Cut to the chase. According to one of the world’s leading mobile technology firms… “the best mobile content “cuts copy to a minimum and only spews the necessities — necessities being what your target should see during those fateful two seconds that determine a click/tap.”
  • It’s A Twitter World. Even if you’re not a Tweeter, it’s important to remember to write the best mobile content that is tweet-worthy, even if it’s not being written for Twitter.
  • Size Matters. “…when it comes to mobile, copywriters have to place extra consideration on being extremely direct, clear and succinct, because presentation options will likely be limited or even inconsistent across devices and platforms.”
  • Appropriate Behavior. When writing for apps, writers can infuse a bit more copy… operative words being “a bit more.”
Disgusting Mouth Noises

Disgusting Mouth Noises

I assure you that it has not been weeks since my last post, it only feels like that, and only if you believe that time is real and measurable, and you don’t believe all that, do you? Alright, alright. So it has been a while, and the previous sentence was silly.

Disgusting Mouth NoisesNothing too exciting has happened in the past few weeks, I’ve just been battling with depression. This is not news, exactly, and let’s not bring down the mood by dwelling on it, because that’s what probably got me there in the first place. That and my brain, I suppose, but I’m not going to fault a bunch of gray matter. One thing I will say is that when I am depressed, ord. in the d. (down in the dumps), I feel drastically less creative than when I am just bummed, or annoyed, which is the typical state under which I operate.

This all makes me wonder about the stereotype of the dark, mentally ill artiste (artiste: “a person with artistic pretensions,” moi, bien entendu), harnessing his/her manic thoughts into a masterpiece. When I am depressed, I mostly stare blankly and say, “I don’t know….” a lot. Where is my creative prize for dealing with myself? I would like it. I would like it here, and I would like it now.

Enough about all that. Last weekend, Vince and I escaped the city on the illustrious L.I.R.R. and took a trip to Long Beach for some beach fun. Somewhere along the way, an old couple sat near us, and as soon as the woman unwrapped a few hard candies, I knew there would be trouble. And there was. Judging by the sounds coming from the mouths of these people, I can only assume that they were eating Warheads, or that neither of them had ever been taught how to eat. Everyone knows that I am not a fan of extraneous, intrusive noise, and food noises are very near the top of my List of Things I Hate. The smacking of lips and gross saliva sounds soon sent me over the edge. I gave Vince a look that he understood, and quickly took out my headphones and started listening to music.

Disgusting Mouth Noises

Later, Vince told me that while I was busy practicing escapism, the lady of the couple was talking insane trash on me. He heard her say, “Tattoos and iPods, we’re so outta the loop! People don’t even talk to each other anymore,” etc. I won’t repeat the rest, because I don’t remember it, and also because that old bag doesn’t deserve the press.

It is both good and bad that I didn’t hear her. Good because I don’t find the idea of getting into an argument with an old lady attractive or flattering. The last time I got into a fight with an old lady was at P.S. 1 last summer when my mom was visiting, and not only did I feel stupid (even though I was totally right and she was nothing but a mean ol’ bitch), but I also now refuse to ever go back to P.S. 1, which I’ve heard can be lovely, but actually really sucks.

On the other hand, I regret not having the chance to tell the woman that I am not the hip, totally tatted out, disconnected iPod devotee that she took me for, and that if she and her husband had not been sucking on their candy-like pigs, I would have been fine without listening to the music I was listening to only to drown out their disgusting mouth noises. And, had I said that to this old woman, I would have felt really great for five or so minutes, followed immediately by burning shame. But oh, how good that good would have felt.

The problem is that I am conflicted with the whole “respect your elders” thing. My mom is big on it, and I think it’s generally a very good rule of thumb. If an ancient man is slowly inching up the stairs in front of me, I am not going to say, “Move it, oldie!” no matter how much I might be thinking it. But, there are loads of assholes in the world, and some of them are old…it’s a scientific fact.

Disgusting Mouth Noises

I usually really like old people. They’ve got great stories that they never seem to think are that great or impressive, and that they usually recount in beautiful detail. And a lot of old people are super-funny. Old couples, especially. My own grandparents are an old couple, and they’re great. Then again, they know how to eat food, and they don’t talk shit on me, so those are two huge things they have going for them, in addition to countless others.

Mini Dental Implants Tecate

First of all, what the mini dental implants are? An MDI is a miniature titanium implant and it works like if it was the root of your tooth, the dentist insert this in your gum and the denture is attached to it, the mobility that the implant allows is minimal and your denture can resist the natural force that, you will not have to suffer anymore with loose dentures.

The MDI can be used for a single tooth and in bridge cases, and it’s a long term solution, some people have been wearing them for a very long time, decades. There are many people that suffer from the lack of teeth, which is called edentulous, and many of them suffer from the traditional dentures, because of the movement. I think we all have seen a commercial or a movie where someone loses his denture and while it can be fun for the person that is watching, it is a very embarrassing situation to the person that happens, so the dental implant is a great choice for those who are edentulous of the lower jaw because this is the one that needs more stability.

The procedure is oral surgery, but it only needs local sedation, total anesthesia is not necessary, and this treatment is performed by a prosthodontist, also many dentists can do it. The doctor is going to put four of the mini implants in your mandible, they are the size of a toothpick, then the dentist is going to adjust your denture, this procedure takes about 1 hour to be done, it’s minimally invasive and you will be able to enjoy a meal within one hour, and with a little practice you are going to be ready to attach or remove your denture, and in this way have a good oral hygiene.

You should consider the mini implants instead of the traditional dental implant or the partials ones, they have many advantages like the fact that is a simple procedure, you are not going to have secondary effects, the mini implants are cheap, they are only a fraction of the implant supported denture cost, and I assume that you want the best teeth at the best price, right? If we endured having braces as kids, now that we are adults we worry more about our smile, so, when you decide to come for a visit ask the dentist about all the prosthodontics available and which can work better for you.

If you wish to know more about dental implants you could check on “Imtec” as they make a lot of dental products, choose the best implant dentist for you and feel free to ask him all your questions about periodontics or any branch of dentistry you’re interested about.

Fat Loss Reviews: Fat Loss 4 Idiots Review

Do you find that diet plans are often very restrictive and you tend to fall back into old eating habits because of this? You might be interested in a program called Fat Loss 4 Idiots as it takes an approach that, while having you meet certain guidelines, allows you to eat the foods you enjoy. There’s no perfect diet program, so there will always be good and bad. As a member of the Fat Loss Reviews team, I’m happy to present this Fat Loss 4 Idiots review so you can judge if this plan makes sense for you.

Fat Loss 4 Idiots Review: What We Like

You get to take breaks

This program is quite distinctive from others. Following a cyclical pattern, Fat Loss 4 Idiots has you working in the program for 11 days and then allows you to take a break and resume your old eating habits for 3 days. You’ll get to partake in some “no-no” foods at times, which keeps you motivated. Add to that the allowance for a glass of wine a day and you can see how this plan is one that’ll likely keep your morale at a very high level.

The basic premise is that you just keep repeating this cycle to lose the weight you desire.

Vegetarians are welcome

And here’s yet another unique and positive selling point for Fat Loss 4 Idiots that’s unlike many other diet programs – the meal plans allow for vegetarian diets. The low saturated fats in this type of diet is a big plus for the heart.

Your meals are your own to create

I like what I like, so this feature really stands out for me. You use an online meal generator to create the meal plan of your choice, with foods that you select from their list, making this highly customizable. However, understand that comfort foods aren’t prevalent on the list, so don’t expect to be dining on chocolate cake every day.

While you get lots of variety in the meal plans, odds are good you’ll get tired of them after awhile. You can get a nice purchasable upgrade though – called ‘Beyond Calories’ – that’ll give you much more choices.

Fat Loss 4 Idiots Review: What We Don’t Like

Needs better structure and clarity

This program might be too loose for some, especially those who need a more ordered diet regimen. And some might find it confusing as there are three diet plans in all.

Where’s the science?

Truth be told, there is no research showing that a cyclical diet actually works. Will resuming normal eating habits for three days cause you to gain back your weight? That’s likely up to each individual. And the main question is this. As this plan has the “feel” of a diet, is this something a person can follow for life?

The fat loss claims might be a bit shaky

Fat Loss 4 Idiots follows the common trend of the fat loss industry with its bold, if not dubious claim that by following this plan you’ll lose 9 pounds every 11 days. That’s a lot of weight, much of which will likely be good old short-term water loss.

Fat Loss 4 Idiots Review: What We Really Think
I can sum up my Fat Loss 4 Idiots review like so. This is a unique and simple take on fat loss. The cyclical nature of the program will make things pretty pain-free for most people who need to get rid of a few pounds. However, for those in need of major weight loss, you’ll need a more comprehensive program that includes exercise in addition to diet. That all being said, for the right folks I feel this program shows promise and give it a Fat Loss Reviews grade of 4 stars.

Common English Writing Mistakes

One thing that writing on this blog is reminded me of, is my complete lack of knowledge of the rules of grammar. Frankly, I have been writing for work and for fun without having any idea of what is right or wrong, just writing in the way that I think sounds correct. It’s not that I haven’t had the opportunity to learn proper grammar and I do not fault those in my educational process for not trying. I have no one else to blame other than myself because when it came to grammar for some reason I tuned it out or it just didn’t click.

So hopefully as you read this blog you’re not doing so with a critical eye, looking for perfection in writing. You are deathly not going to find it here. But I will say that is one of my goals in writing more often, is trying to improve upon my skills. Recently I came across an article that pointed out some common mistakes that people make when writing online that make them look less than intelligent. I thought that was a little extreme, but the point is true. Here are those listed in the article (that you can read great examples of by visiting)

  • Your vs. You’re ““ know when you’re using the possessive versus the contraction
  • It’s vs Its ““ again contraction versus possessive
  • There vs Their ““ are you going there or says something they own?
  • Affect vs Effect ““ I will admit this is a tough one for me, I always seem to forget which is which

Here also are a few that I have found common that hopefully if you make these mistakes by bringing them up I’d help you correct a bad habit.

Misuse of the Apostrophe
We often use contractions in the way we speak in fact we use them a lot, but that does not mean we have to use it so much in writing. Here again, I admit that because I write so informally on this blog, I often end up using contractions perhaps more than I would like to admit. Lately, because I am using a voice to text software to help me write quicker, I find that I am using even more contractions because I am speaking my thoughts rather than typing them. This is something I am putting a little effort into to try and change. Contractions are not necessarily evil, but when we use the apostrophe we need to make sure we are in fact using it correctly. I find that many people will use an apostrophe to indicate the plural of something which is incorrect and end up making a word possessive when it shouldn’t be.

Quotations And Punctuation
First off, I dislike it when people over quote things. In fact, I find that many people who use air quotes when they speak are the same people that over-quote things when they write. That point aside, I am always troubled with remembering the right way to deal with punctuation when quotes appear at the end of a sentence. For some reason, I remember or at least think I remember that there was one set of grammar rules that said you put the period at the end of a sentence inside the quotes and another set of rules that said you put it on the outside. From what I have seen, it is more accepted these days to have the period inside the quotes. Were I am faced with a dilemma is when I am quoting something that needs to be specifically typed with what appears inside the quotes, and specifically without a period in it, such as any username, password or website address. So rather than deal with looking like I don’t know my punctuation, a usually end up reforming the sentence or paragraph to try and express the same intent but in a way that doesn’t have the quotes ending up at the end of the sentence.

Transpositions
This is just another fancy word for typos. There are so many common ones that come from either typing fast or lazy fingers when you type that I can’t list them all. Here are a few though

  • form/from
  • for/fro
  • casual/causal
  • the/teh

As I said the list could be long but I point out some of these for specific reasons. With current technology, we have come to rely on spellchecking to try and make us look like we know what we’re doing. The problem is we have become lazy and just trust that the spellchecker is getting it right. The first three in my list are examples of how a spellchecker pilot something slide when it does not match our intended word. The last is a good example of words that have been because of our lazy fingers that we need to correct by simply rereading what we have written. Just those few extra seconds or perhaps minutes can go a long way to helping people take our written words more seriously.

So what are some of the common spelling or grammatical mistakes that you see as you traverse the grand World Wide Web? These can be things that you commonly see in forums which are inherently informal, or in the fast array of news sites out there that you may read? I ask this question for too self-serving reasons, 1) to invite comments and see what the readers of this blog think, and 2) to see if there are some spelling or grammatical pet peeves out there that I may do that I can correct.

So have at it, the floor is now yours.

The Show Must Go On!

Mary, the “mom”

People are upset and angry; they’re petitioning their representatives; they’re writing letters to the editor. Why? The choice for the 2009 high school play! A few weeks ago, the high school drama department announced that the 2009 play would be Rent: School Edition. My reaction went along the lines of “Cool, something different; a little edgy”. Boy, am I naïve! This week, our small town newspaper features a cover story about how upset people are and how they’re petitioning the school boards to prevent this play and a letter to the editor encouraging citizens to contact the high school and express their dismay.

I am well aware that I am a tad more liberal than the average middle-class suburbanite, even in New Jersey, but I just didn’t realize the extent of the divide. People are signing a petition because they are upset about high school kids being exposed to themes such as homosexuality, drug abuse, HIV/AIDS, promiscuity, etc. I, on the other hand, see only good from exposing them to these themes. Maybe they’ll be more tolerant of the peer who “comes out of the closet”, or more cognizant of the risk of AIDS/HIV and the dangers of promiscuity and drug abuse. I want my teenagers exposed to these themes, not sheltered from them. Am I off base? What does the rest of the family think?

Rach, the “older teen”

My high school did Sweeny Todd: The Demon Barber of Fleet Street. The total body in our rendition of the play was well over ten. Ten high school students pretended to get murdered then eaten on stage. I was the stage manager, and we sold out almost every show. It was a hit, people loved it!

In case you don’t know, Sweeny Todd was a barber who killed people, then his girlfriend made them into meat pies – it’s a true story, he killed hundreds then fed them to fellow Londoners, but is significantly less famous than Jack the Ripper, who only killed five.

If my high school did Rent, there would be a lot of angry parents. I find this incredibly disturbing. Homosexuality, sex, and drugs are all considered less school appropriate than murder and cannibalism? That’s messed up. Being open and honest about sex and all types of sexuality is a good thing, murder is not. I believe that teens (and tweens) should be well educated (really educated, not just told to “say no”) about sexuality, pregnancy, and drugs.

Of course, I take a stand that most don’t seem to agree with. We let our kids watch the nightly news filled with murders, rapes, and fires – but we won’t let our kids watch movies that have naked people in them? Gosh, we sure live in a seriously messed up society.

Brad, the “dad”

This part of the family is sick-to-death-tired of people sticking their collective heads in the sand. “Exposing their children to homosexuality, drug abuse, HIV/AIDS, and promiscuity”? What, as they’ve never heard of these things before?

I admit we live in a far more urban, and some would say more ’sophisticated’ environment. To me, there’s nothing sophisticated about it. It’s just the world, and what with mass media, free and easy travel, and the global economy it seems to be pretty much the same all over. And I’ve had too many friends die of AIDS, seen too many have unwanted pregnancies and unhappy marriages, suffered from too many friends who’ve had drug problems or died of overdoses to think that avoiding “exposure” to any of the above, pretending to be unaware of them, would do anything but make matters worse. Ignorance does not breed anything but grief.

And they’re not too young. We weren’t “too young” thirty years ago when I was in high school; we just pretended we were. The first suicide I was ‘exposed’ to was back in high school. So were the first instances of promiscuity. And drug abuse. And alcohol abuse. And one of my best friends in high school “came out” in college, and two others died within the decade from HIV. Mostly because, you know, we didn’t TALK about “gay cancer” back then. And in this case, not talking about it killed them.

I know these people think that RENT somehow ‘celebrates’ these lifestyles simply by showing that some people who are gay or sick or making bad decisions still have some element of dignity and potential for happiness in the face of tragedy; that they have some fragment of hope in their lives despite everything. But RENT doesn’t make any of these challenges look particularly attractive. I can’t imagine anybody leaving the show and thinking, “Oh, boy, I sure wish that was ME!” So what’s the problem? That it’s not Annie? Or Sound of Music? No, wait, we can’t go there: Rodgers and Hammerstein might expose them to themes involving fascism, anti-authoritarianism, and people of other, less desirable, religious faiths.

Sheesh.

If you asked me, RENT shouldn’t just be allowed in your school. Attendance should be mandatory. And then they should take it on the road and bring it to OUR schools.

Sorry. That REALLY annoyed me. Probably because I’ve fought this same fight in middle schools and high school over and over and over. And like I said: I’m sick-to-death-tired of it.

Enjoy the show. It’s great.

Lauren, the “younger teen”

In EVERY high school, there are teens who are having sex, there are kids doing drugs, there are homosexual kids, and so on. (Gasp!). So, show teens how dangerous HIV/AIDS are and how important safe sex is. Let teens truly understand that there’s a reason that most drugs are illegal. Drugs are dangerous! Being homosexual is hardest during the teen years. Help those students understand they’re not alone. Doing a play is a much better way to teach these topics to teens rather than sitting in a stuffy health classroom. Also, it makes something very dangerous, such as AIDs, which most teens say “can’t happen to me”, more realistic.

Some parents know kids do these things but think “not my child”. Some parents are completely oblivious and think teens are innocent children. So many parents are unaware in one way or another of what’s going on in their teen’s life. So I think it’s the perfect play to help both the students and parents to understand and make them more aware.

Bedroom Wars

Mary, the “mom”

I’ve always tried to be consistent with my kids. I make my share of parenting mistakes, but my kids always know where I stand and what to expect from me. Except when it comes to the neatness, or shall I say, messiness, of their rooms. I just can’t seem to take a stand and stick to it. When they were younger, I made their beds and put away their laundry. I told them about it if they threw clothes on the floor, but I would pick them up. (I guess that’s where I went wrong.) As they grew, I realized that they needed to take some responsibility, so first I turned to make the bed over to them. Guess how often the beds get made. Then I found myself really busy and wondering why I was putting away laundry for three perfectly capable young people. Isn’t it enough that I wash it and fold it and deliver it to them? So, I turned that over to them. So now the older two only put their laundry away when an ultimatum is issued.

As for the overall neatness of the room, I’ve tried various approaches, all of which are variations of the concept that their rooms are their territory and their responsibility. Make as much of a mess as you want, but I’m not going to clean it up. I think that’s a great approach from the perspective that it puts the decisions and the consequences in their hands. Except, I just can’t stand it! I promise them it’s up to them and then I either go ballistic on them because their rooms are pigsties or refuse to even walk into their rooms because I can’t stand to see the mess, or not let them go somewhere until they straighten up, or I get really crazy and clean up their rooms myself (like I did last week).

Obviously, there is nothing consistent in my handling of this issue. And, I know in the grand scheme of things, clothes all over the floor isn’t such a big problem. But, it drives me crazy! So, “Dad”, how does your family handle the bedroom issue? Rach, help me out here – I know I’m driving my kids crazy. What’s a fair approach?

Brad, the “dad”

Ah, the ‘clean room’ thing. “Mom,” today I bring you a message of…well, utter hopelessness, with a little scootch of “don’t sweat the small stuff” right at the end.

We’ve been through it three times now, and we’re suffering through the third time now with The Elf, who I swear looks at me like I’m speaking Martian when I say, “clean your room.” “What?” her blank expression tells me. “What is this thing you call…’clean’? And I’m in a…what did you call it? ‘Room’? I don’t…”

We’ve had great success, I think — so far — in instilling a sense of fair play, compassion, empathy, and right action in our offspring. It’s borne us by their behavior on a daily basis, and I love them and am proud of them all the time. But not a single solitary strategy, tactic, approach, or manipulation ever made them clean their rooms. Not for more than a week. Not ever.

Leaving it alone until it’s a stinking pile of sticky-things doesn’t help. Doing it for them and hating yourself doesn’t help. Punishment, reward, lectures, grandparental intervention, weeping, shouting, and withholding everything from computer games to TV to locking them in with the stinking pile of etc. etc. … doesn’t work. Not more than once. And now that’s we’re lurching through the same challenge with the Elf as we have with the Other Ones, I’ve decided to do the one thing I haven’t tried before — the one thing that isn’t an actual felony, that is.

I’m giving up.

I visited our oldest daughter at her home recently. It was astonished at how reasonably clean and well-organized it was, and how she actually seemed to be doing her laundry and washing on regular basis. A few days later I visited the Valkyrie at college, and found her portion of the dorm room was neat as the proverbial pin, and that she had a drawer full of clean clothes she had actually — had actually (I’m sorry, I’m choking up a little here) — actually washed by herself. So in both cases, all those years of screaming and threatening and Sturm und Drang…well, it didn’t much matter. When the real rubber met the actual road, they responded to the deep-training that they received from the rest of the house and the rest of their lives to date. Turns out they take care of themselves just fine.

So in this one instance? I say let it go. Not a popular opinion, I know — not even in my own house — but if the kid is doing well in all the important areas, if he or she is treating other people well, staying away from the dangerous stuff, setting and achieving personal and family goals…then just let the room be the room, with all its issues of power-struggle, ownership, and territoriality, and only intervene in that last moment before the rats or the Health Department take over. In short: don’t sweat the small stuff, and you just might all survive to clean another day.

Rach, the “older teen”

My parents have never forced me to clean my room. They’ve asked me to tidy up when the company is coming over (so, when my grandparents take over my room), but other than that’s it’s always been up to me. So, when I was a kid my mom made my bed. Then when I was a young teen my room was piled with CDs and clothes. Now (as an older teen), my dorm room and my room at home are clean and mostly tidy. It makes a big difference in a small room.

I like what my parents did, they just kind of left it alone. Every once in a while they asked for me to be neat. I’ve always kind of got the feeling that they just don’t care about my room. I guess it really depends on how much you see the room. And how much you want it to be neat. If you make policy like they can’t go out (or have dessert, watch TV, play a video game) unless their room is spotless, and if you stick to that – then your kids will, hopefully, start keeping things a bit tidier.

I think a fair approach is to pick one. Does it make a huge difference to you? Then get a rule going. If it only kind of matters? Then don’t make a rule and ask for cleanliness every once in a while.

Lauren, the “younger teen”

Well, in my house, I am so clean that it really isn’t a problem. (I can’t even keep a straight face trying to type that since I am the exact opposite of clean!) The majority of teens have messy rooms, especially younger teens – that age group, for some odd reason, seems to be the worst in terms of room cleanliness. Somehow, it just doesn’t bother us, but parents (or at least my parents) it drives crazy! The only reason my room is ever even a little bit tidy is that my mom refuses to come in if it’s too messy. So, no matter what, there will be folded laundry in the basket (currently I am staring at 2 huge piles) that I haven’t put away and my desk always is cluttered, but if you catch me at the right time there might not be clothes spread out across my entire floor. I think pretty much all of my friends have messy rooms so it really isn’t a big deal in my mind, although my mom, I am sure, would beg to differ.

I think that our rooms are our own place to be a complete slob if we want to be. So, parents, I would just ignore them and let us throw our clothes across the room if we want to. Also, know that you’re certainly not alone, it’s not just your teen. So, when they say no one has clean rooms, they’re not exaggerating at all. Bottom line, you may have to just suck it up for these years and let your teen be themselves in their room. Remember, “Dad,” says it will get better when we’re older.